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Conflict Owner's Manual

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116 Three kinds of thoughts that block your conflict competence

December 28, 2025 • Dr. Deborah Sword, with co-host Tyson Bankert • Season 4 • Episode 116

When you meet someone, you leave impressions on each other. You can't know for sure what impression you leave, but you can guess. And, then you'll behave as if your guess is correct. Feeling misunderstood and judged? You'll act as if you are misunderstood and judged. Maybe you're right; or maybe you're misunderstanding and judging. Your thoughts and beliefs direct your actions, so it's a conflict competence to pay attention to them. Here are three automatic thought biases to be aware of, with suggestions to help you own them.

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