Conflict Owner's Manual
When you improve your conflict skills you improve your relationships. We're tech support for the conflict skills you already have, so you do conflict better.
Our logo is a dandelion because conflict is like a weed invading your garden. You want to know how to manage it, and keep it from spreading. In each episode, we give you one real life conflict competency you can use right away to improve your skills, which will also improve the quality of your relationships.
Dr. Deborah Sword is a specialist in conflict analysis and management. Tyson Bankert is a community facilitator and artist. We have decades of experience helping people improve their conflict competencies.
Conflict Owner's Manual
Latest Episodes
Want a better conflict result? Have a better conflict process 153
Do you wish to achieve one outcome in a conflict? You might get your desired outcome, and it might feel like you won. But did getting your desired outcome improve the relationship? There's a difference between doing conflict well an...
Silence can be a smart thing to say in conflict #152
Most people have been in a conflict where angry words were exchanged, often loudly, as each party attempts to persuade, and win the argument. I show you a conflict skill that can get you out of the argument. Here are three ways you can use sile...
Are your beliefs about conflict adding fuel to the fight? #151
From our first experiences with conflict, we form beliefs about how conflict "should" be. What you believe about how conflict "should" be conducted is how you conduct yourself in conflict. How old are your current beliefs about what...
Are you trying to argue someone out of their belief? Do this instead #150
What people believe is how they behave. If you're using arguments to try changing someone's rules, opinions, decisions or perspective, you aren't likely to change their beliefs. Same belief. Same behaviour. Nothing ch...
How you fight vs. how often: which matters more? 149
Maybe not fighting in a relationship is a good sign, and maybe it's a warning flag. How do you tell the difference? Does not fighting mean you're avoiding hard to discuss topics so that there's no conflict? Does that feel like a healthy relatio...
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loved your latest podcast. The 3 point format is great. I liked the talk to your allies about a conflict. I always thought that was gossip
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